who fucking litters. why do i ever see litter. who thinks that’s okay. who. who NEEDS to throw their fast food bag out the fucking window instead of waiting until they get somewhere with a trashcan. what kinda clown behavior. get fucked.
Posting this because I’m seriously tired of people thinking fanfiction authors are machines that pop out stories for your enjoyment. No, you can’t just go to Settings and adjust our update times to your liking, that’s not how it works. We’re human too.
When people criticize “fetishizing” a gay relationship as opposed to healthy-shipping it it’s a bit like when a dude objectifies a woman vs when he sexualizes her. Sexualizing someone (in the definition of ‘being sexually attracted to them’) is 100% okay, so a guy may find a girl hot, or two girls going at it hot… but reducing an actress solely to her sex appeal is problematic – for instance an unsolicited judgment call about her professional worth based on her attractiveness, etc, “her time is passed, look at how saggy her boobs are!”, unsolicited remarks to a person like catcalling, etc, or pretending the two lesbians at the bar are obviously up there only to have a threesome with you when you teach them dick,… because you’ve watched a lot of bad porn.
That’s like the original idea, only ofc the context is different. In this case it’s about straight people reducing relationships between queer people to a bunch of tropes and stereotypes so they’re their “”sinful kink””!! Gay sex is so dirty and extra!! If you think <X> bottoms you’RE SO FUCKING WRONG CAN’T YOU SEE HOW BUFF THEY ARE!! <Y> should totally be the mom1! Or like this girl who secretly enjoys reading slash but in Church nods at all the homophobic propaganda and walks by the bullied gay kid in her grade.
Now, as you can notice, the harm comes from the stereotypes themselves being perpetuated and not at all the fact a girl finds it hot or gets off to the idea of two men going together. It’s not like she finds it hot or writes about it because it’s problematic – just that she’s entertaining what she has in mind, from a problematic culture. When she grows up and learns that anal sex has nothing to do with gender expression she’ll stop saying that nonsense. And she’ll like whatever like we gay people ourselves do, with all the fun and none of the stupid, after deconstructing the homophobia. I think the best thing to do is always education, not gratuitous attacks or silly tribalism.
And that’s why I hate the term and where tumblr gets stupid: calling someone gross bc they’re finding gayness hot, like the idea of men together belongs to you and is a disrespect to *your identity* is incredibly misled and sex-negative. The whole word “fetish” is used sex-negatively all the time, so that if a person likes feet it’s a foot kink, but if they dislike sth it’s a gross fetish, you know what I mean? That they should be ashamed for finding gays hot so as long as the person emitting the judgment doesn’t approve of their Moral Purity. Some people going as far as that idiot who said women should stop shipping “mlm” altogether, when slash spaces are a woman-made LGTB landmark lol.
It’s BS, and also fetish itself is a specific psychiatric word that means “object without which a person can’t get off” – here it’s used for ‘kink’, often pejoratively – which has little to do. I’m not absolute with words but I’m very wary when I hear “fetish” anywhere because I can smell it coming.
So yeah enjoy, fall in love with, fall in lust with and spread gay ships no matter what you identify as. Just don’t be homophobic is what actually matters. Sexuality isn’t a bad thing by itself. Does that answer your question?
Write whatever ship you want. Write healthy relationships. Write unhealthy relationships. Write implausible AUs, ecstatic melodramas, unlikely redemption arcs. Squick people out. Bring others great joy. Tag your shit.
Ignore the Can We Not brigade. What is this “we” they speak of? “We as a fandom?” As in, if you enjoy the wrong sort of story, you don’t belong here/you should shut up and fall in line until you retrain your brain to want “healthier” things? I put up my middle finger at them.
Write woobie villains and age gaps and OFCs and dubcon and gay people having het sex; I don’t care. It’s okay. You did your research, you have nuance and compassion. I trust you. If you fuck up, step back, learn about the issue, and try something else next time. Don’t stop writing.
Write nerve-wracking secret idfic. Write dumbass jokes. (Punch up.) Write complex liminal spaces. Intend to write one thing and accidentally imply another, because you don’t have the skills yet. Get called out. Find a beta. Keep writing.
I have my personal kinks and squicks and stances and preferences, hell yeah, but I will never tell you not to test an idea. Your weird self is welcome on this blog.
I’m really sick of all those posts that are like ‘reblog if you think fics don’t need porn to be good’ (especially the ones that shit on porn writers) or ‘reblog if you actually write more then porn’ because like you self entitled muffin wankers think you’re so much better then us lowley porn writers because, what? You work so much harder on your fics? Porn is easier? Because its wrong?
What is it knuckle munch go on tell me because I can fucking tell you I work just as hard on my multi k porn fics as your boring ass fluffy or angsty bullshit so fuck you.
If you dont hate on porn writers we can be friends if you legitimately think that porn writers don’t try as hard, don’t deserve recognition or are ‘sinning and wrong’ you can suck on a ballsack unfollow me right now and let me know so that I can unfollow you.
Reblog this if you think porn writers work just as hard and deserve just as much love because we don’t hear it enough.
Okay, so I’ve seen enough purity wank at this point to notice a common slip of the fingers among multiple wankists that admits the main complaint: some people feel that tagging a work that has dark themes or triggery content in the ship or character tag that they follow on AO3 is akin to posting in a tumblr tag as an anti.
I’ll go ahead and clearly state: that is not true.
The tags on AO3 literally mean “X content is in here.” X may be a ship, a character, a trope, a setting, a fandom, a gender category, you name it. But that is literally all it means: “X is here.”
That doesn’t mean you’re going to like the X that’s in a given work. You might hate it. It might include your squicks or even your triggers. That’s okay – you don’t have to open it. The point of having multiple tags plus summaries on works is to help you make an informed decision. I break out into chills just thinking about opening a high school au. In some fandoms, that means there’s barely anything left. That’s okay. It’s not up to creators to make stuff that I like. It’s up to them to tag clearly and accurately so I can avoid stuff I won’t like.
(For the record, that includes both underage and character death, but I will absolutely stand up for anyone who wants to make those things in ships and for characters I love, because I don’t have to open them. Someone else out there does want those works, and that’s great. More power to ‘em. I’ll be over here buried in fluff and curtainfic, which I’m sure someone else out there hates.)
I have much more sympathy for those who complain that posters are
tagging with ships or characters or concepts that don’t appear in the work or are
only mentioned once, because that’s a case of tagging something that
isn’t there on the screen, just in the creator’s head. But if something is there on the screen? Doesn’t matter what else is there with it. The work belongs in the tag.
Tags on AO3 don’t belong to a specific group of people. I have seen people be run out of tags by harassers dogpiling them, and I’m here to say that is not on. No matter how much you like a thing, the tag for it is not yours to decide who gets to use it and who doesn’t. Don’t like, don’t read. You have a scrollbar and filtering. Use them like a responsible adult.
(If you’re not an adult, don’t lie about your age to get through the age filter and then complain about what you find on the other side.)
The “anti” problem arose because Tumblr has no functional community structure, meaning people started using the tags themselves to replace the communities from back on LJ. In that context, tagging a negative post with the tags that apply was making the posts show up in the only viable community structure, which was a violation of LJ etiquette (where communities were self-selecting and moderated). This was exacerbated by the lack of functional cut tags, so everything was all completely visible, and you had to scroll past every post in its entirety. The culture of “don’t post anti in the tag” was a social concept developed to deal with Tumblr’s non-functionality for fandom purposes.
That’s unfortunate, but it’s Tumblr’s problem, not AO3′s. AO3 is not a blogging or social media platform. It’s an archive. It relies on a fairly unique tagging system that only works properly if posters tag fully. Don’t import Tumblr social norms about what belongs or doesn’t belong in a tag onto AO3; they don’t fit. All they do is break the tagging and filtering system by bullying people out of tagging fully.
When Dylan comes back and starts appearing again, please please please DON’T ask him about his injuries.
If he’s as fully healed and well as rumors claim, he’s probably nervous about showing his face in public again after his traumatic accident and long disappearance. We’ve been craving any photo, any update on him sources were willing to toss us and TWS6 isn’t too far away so when we do finally see Dylan again after what feels like centuries, it’s probably going to be crazy.
Dylan gets anxiety about things like that, which is more than likely why he doesn’t attend conventions or events anymore like he used to years ago. He never wanted to be famous or as popular as he is now and probably never expected to. Think about how he feels with not only paparazzi trying to deliberately invade his personal space, hormonal teenagers oversexualizing/objectifying him endlessly and making him uncomfortable by seeing how far they can get with physical touch, etc. whenever they think there’s an opportunity and trying to hold onto whatever he can of a normal life among all of that.
Honestly? Thant kind of thing adds up and has an effect on a person. The last thing he needs is the entire universe trying to squeeze information out of him and plead for all of the clandestine details about what happened to him during the accident. He’s not going to want that and he’s probably already thinking about what to say to those or how to handle millions pressuring him for information about that. Let’s not, okay? Let’s save him the stress and anxiety and just leave it alone. We want him to be comfortable appearing again. We don’t need to know how it happened. As long as he’s alive and he’s not hurt, we should be thankful.
It’s okay if he doesn’t want anyone to know and it’s okay if he doesn’t want to talk about it.
His family was very kind to us throughout the whole scenario while keeping it hush-hush (and they chose to interact with us even though they knew how upset and worried we were), and other sources wouldn’t have treated us that well. It doesn’t matter what triggered it or whose fault it was. it happened and we can’t erase that. we can just hope he’s okay.
On another note, I would like to take this opportunity and use this as a friendly reminder that we all need to give the way we treat Dylan a makeover and change things. When he comes back, I want all of us to treat him better — including asking permission for photos and hugs first, no sexual tweets, no gross signs in his presence,
no “CAN I HAVE A HUG/I LOVE YOU SO MUCH/MARRY ME!!!” during panel questions, no touching inappropriately or seeing how far we can get when we meet or get close enough, no objectification, no “f*ck me daddy”, none of that. I want to show him that we’re mature, we respect him and we’re not animals. We want him to feel comfortable around us and we don’t want to violate his space or make him nervous. We want to make
sure he’s okay because we genuinely care for him and support him. he’s a human, not a sex object. let’s be different and show him that. It might make him feel better, he’ll notice and appreciate it. We can show love without being provocative/perverted about it, it’s easy! Just smile, be really nice to him, talk to him and ask first if you want something to make sure he’s okay with it and I PROMISE he’ll feel a lot more comfortable interacting with us again. Dylan’s
personal space and safety > our satisfaction. We have to give back and make sure our idol is happy first before we are.
Let’s change these things and spread this around our fandoms before his next appearance so that we can surprise him by how well-behaved and sweet we are and help him not to feel so on edge about being back. If enough of us tweet the fandom not to ask Dylan anything about his accident, we can prevent it from happening. He’s always been so good to us no matter of what he has to put up with, and this would be really nice of us to do for him.
Virgin shaming and slut shaming piss me off in equal amounts. There’s nothing magical or special about being a virgin, and same goes with having sex. You know what’s magical? Shutting the fuck up about people’s personal choices.
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