“Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says ‘Come on, one drink!’ You say ‘no thanks.’ Later, he brings you a soda. ‘I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.’ For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your ‘no.’ If you say ‘Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks’ and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.” —The Art of “No” (Jennifer P.)
I’ve never seen this post with the original caption before. I thought I loved it simply from the photography but the depth of the meaning behind it…. Wow.
Derek (aka Wolverine) and Stiles Stilinski (aka Spider-Man) met in New York. One was bitten by a radioactive spider, the other was born a mutant. Neither of them have had it easy, by any means, but when they found each other and realized that they both wanted to help people, they decided to try things out as a team of two.
Two years later, they own an apartment together and now, apparently, they own a cat together. Named Purrfessor X. “Honestly, Stiles.”
Protecting the civilians from all of their shared enemies won’t stop them from being the most domesticated couple in town.
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