As of today, November 17, 2018, any post with links, any links, even to other tumblr posts, just don’t show up anymore in tumblr’s search engine.
I just found out about it, after I posted a fic with a link to my masterlist and it got little to no notes (it shuldn’t). I was right – the moment I deleted the links, my post magically appeared in the search again. Wow.
But they aren’t documented so they wouldn’t be pa…..nvm
This is a huge misconception for regular Americans. When the government uses the phrase “undocumented” they’re using it incorrectly because if they were truly undocumented then they would’ve be in system. However these immigrants are in the system and they pay taxes, file tax returns and get no benefits that citizens and legal residents get. They also get to see ICE showing up at their doors because the government has their addresses.
Fun fact. “Undocumented” workers pays $12 billion dollars every year in taxes.
“Undocumented” just means “without papers,” i.e. a social security card, valid visa, etc. They’re still on databases and whatnot, they just don’t have the documentation that allows them to reap the benefits.
so if it didn’t click- the government is aware of their presence and gladly taking their money under the table while simultaneously promoting the idea that undocumented people are a threat and encouraging hatred and distrust of them it’s super messed up, literally the scheme of an evil villain, and it’s really happening
🗣 undocumented immigrants in Los Angeles contribute more to the GDP than the state of Montana and like 5 other states
Therapists aren’t people who you “pay to pretend to care about you”, therapists are people you pay to teach you how to care for yourself
Me: I am violently depressed.
Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!
Me: *signs up for yoga*
Me: *is violently depressed in Downward Dog*
Me: I hate myself and only see my flaws
Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.
Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t
Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.
TL;DR stop perpetuating the idea that therapy is unhelpful because the results are not instantaneous.
FUCKING THIS.
As a psychologist the amount of bullshit on this site, the amount of fucking dangerous bullshit on this site about how therapy is neurotypical bullshit and isn’t worth it and how exercise is pointless and good diet is pointless and that therapy homework is pointless DRIVES ME UP THE FUCKING WALL
Exercise is fucking important. good diet is fucking important therapy is fucking important. WHY???
because pills alone don’t help. they improve the hormonal imbalance (as does exercise and good diet which ALSO are a form of very real self care as your physical being is sorta connected to your mental one but go fucking figure right?), but guess what? the suicidal thoughts, the thoughts of harm, the thoughts of hating yourself, they’re still there. suicides actually increase when medicated. why? because suddenly you have the energy to fulfill thoughts of harming yourself. which is why you NEED therapy alongside pills.
it has taken you years, or decades to create your maladaptive thought processes and behaviours. that shit doesn’t disappear overnight. core beliefs don’t change overnight. these are the very fucking core of your personhood, your being and personality. THAT TAKES TIME TO CHANGE
STOP ACTING LIKE THERAPY IS SHIT IF IT DOESNT WORK IN TWO SESSIONS
^This!!!!!
I went to see a therapist in 2016. For two years I had been trapped in empathy and anxiety, and had no idea how the shit to make life livable again. I had attempted suicide and had been planning my actual suicide since grade 9. The therapist was able to pin point the issues and gave me homework to do, that actually helped me a lot in both managing my anxiety and finally breaking free of my empathy.
But here’s the thing: none of the homework she gave me would have worked unless I fuckin’ put in the work. Did I want to keep a journal and write daily affirmations and lists of shit I’m grateful for (those lists were hard. Sounds like it was easy but it was far from it.)? no. Was it easy to learn how to think positively and restructure my way of thinking so my immediate go to wasn’t ‘oh god, I failed again I deserve to die’? fuck no. Is it easy to keep being positive and keep up my breathing exercises during a panic attack, or avoid my anxiety triggers? haha fuck no. But I keep doin’ them anyways because they help.
A therapist can only do so much – you must put in the effort and be willing to help yourself and work with them.
David Attenborough voice: “Now if you listen close, you can hear the unique siren call of the Predatory Lender luring its prey out of the grass while it prepares to pounce.”
Reminder that the AO3 comments section is not a place where you should put criticism, constructive or otherwise, unless it is explicitly asked for by the author. This is like super basic fandom etiquette and in most cases you’re being the opposite of helpful. You can crush a writer’s spirit with just a few words, regardless of your intent. It costs you absolutely nothing to just close that tab and let it go.
Check the tags! If a story isn’t tagged “concrit welcome” or “constructive criticism welcome”, readers should always assume concrit is not welcome.
Many writers write for reasons *other* than improving their writing. Never assume that the writer wants or needs your assistance improving that writing.
If you can’t bring yourself to say a simple “thanks”, you can leave kudos, or close the tab.
It bears repeating: You are likely to do more harm than good by leaving unwelcome concrit.
^^^^^ this
A golden rule of life is – avoid giving unasked-for advice. It’s way more damaging than you might think.
And a casual reminder that giving good crit (of your own and other people’s work) is a skill in itself and that’s what betas and writer buddies are usually for.
100% of women want to have sex with a man who embodies the fox version of Robin Hood from the cartoon Robin Hood, but most do not actually want to have sex with a fox or a man dressed as one
I just learned that some websites use cookies to adjust prices. That is, if you visit a certain website a lot the price will increase.
You can tell if that’s the case by checking the same web page on a different browser if you have a different number of stored cookies for that site. I checked something on Chegg and it was $14.95 on Chrome, $19.95 on Firefox, and $16.95 on Safari.
The fix? Clear your cookies for that website.
Reblog, save a wallet.
Plane tickets almost always do this!
PLANE TICKETS DO THIS ALL THE DAMN TIME
When you’re looking for plane tickets and waiting for prices to drop, ALWAYS clear your cookies beforehand and switch between browsers. A friend of mine was looking for a flight and getting prices that were the CHEAPEST at $800-1000, I sent her a link for a round trip that was like $495, and it read as $900 on her computer because she had been hounding the airline site.
#tbt that time i was raving about an all women shakespeare company and some fuckboy butted in with “i hate how you never hear about all men shakespeare productions” that has honestly been the highlight of my university career so far
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